Who is Jeff Chang? I should know, having just quoted him for a blog post...but we'll figure it out, right! ?
Keith Knight is from.Massachusetts.
Malden is not especially close to Rhode Island, but it's no secret: my definition of "neighbor" is Vast.
I discovered Keith via one of his cartoons & being neighborly, sent him a facebook friend request. He accepted that same day, and poof! The rest is history...
When will he visit Rhode Island?
Has he commented on our name?
Full & controversial (sometimes not) name is:
**The State of Rhode Island & Providence Plantations.**
Showing posts with label neighbor. Show all posts
Showing posts with label neighbor. Show all posts
Sunday, February 5, 2012
Wednesday, January 25, 2012
Was Joe Paterno molested as a child ?
Years ago, in a training that addressed symptoms of children who have been sexually abused, the trainer said, once you have started learning this material, you cannot unlearn it.
"You cannot unring a bell".
I am passionate about baseball and baseball history, and increasingly am informed about basketball, and especially the Providence College Friars Mens' Basketball. I can tell you which college basketball coaches have the most wins in their records.
Football, college or professional, has been completely foreign to me.
The issue of sexual abuse of children, however, is one I have been schooled in professionally (academically and not)for over 20 years.
When I was first told how many girls and boys experience sexually inappropriate behavior by caregivers, sometimes family members, and by other adults, I was shocked.
As I became prepared to hear adults share their histories, I found that many women and men did have traumas to refer to.
In some of my work, I have taken very quick histories, the kind where you ask about family background, illnesses, and "dysfunctions/abuses"....and we did not ask for many details, but we asked people to be truthful or to let us know, if they preferred not to answer...We asked people not to give us an answer they thought we were looking for.
I learned that survivors of sexual abuse do not offer any one image as adults. Some became very religious and/or spiritual, some not. Some had many partners as adults, some not. Some married, some not. Some developed alcoholism, other addictions, depression, etc. Some were healthy in every way.
Was Joe Paterno molested as a child ?
I have no idea.
I no longer assume that any one is free of that experience.
Outside of professional settings, I have found friends, and in one instance, the parent of a friend, have survived different forms of abuse. Sometimes, it was "just" being groped, or "just" related to pornography. Some were touched "just" once, and someone entered the room, or they were able to avoid that relative for the rest of their lives.
I hope that Joe did not experience any form of child abuse. That is what I hope for everyone.
I know that some who survive never tell anyone. They are not interested in hearing about others' experiences.
They find ways to forget.
I believe that he regretted doing the minimum when he was given McQueary's report.
~ ~ ~ ~ ~
ALL persons in Rhode Island are required by law (RIGL 40-11-3) to report known or suspected cases of child abuse and/or neglect to the Department of Children, Youth, and Families within 24 hours of becoming aware of such abuse/neglect.
Call the Hotline at 1-800-RI-CHILD (1-800-742-4453) to report child abuse and/or neglect!
The bold italicized text above is copied from the DCYF site.
"You cannot unring a bell".
I am passionate about baseball and baseball history, and increasingly am informed about basketball, and especially the Providence College Friars Mens' Basketball. I can tell you which college basketball coaches have the most wins in their records.
Football, college or professional, has been completely foreign to me.
The issue of sexual abuse of children, however, is one I have been schooled in professionally (academically and not)for over 20 years.
When I was first told how many girls and boys experience sexually inappropriate behavior by caregivers, sometimes family members, and by other adults, I was shocked.
As I became prepared to hear adults share their histories, I found that many women and men did have traumas to refer to.
In some of my work, I have taken very quick histories, the kind where you ask about family background, illnesses, and "dysfunctions/abuses"....and we did not ask for many details, but we asked people to be truthful or to let us know, if they preferred not to answer...We asked people not to give us an answer they thought we were looking for.
I learned that survivors of sexual abuse do not offer any one image as adults. Some became very religious and/or spiritual, some not. Some had many partners as adults, some not. Some married, some not. Some developed alcoholism, other addictions, depression, etc. Some were healthy in every way.
Was Joe Paterno molested as a child ?
I have no idea.
I no longer assume that any one is free of that experience.
Outside of professional settings, I have found friends, and in one instance, the parent of a friend, have survived different forms of abuse. Sometimes, it was "just" being groped, or "just" related to pornography. Some were touched "just" once, and someone entered the room, or they were able to avoid that relative for the rest of their lives.
I hope that Joe did not experience any form of child abuse. That is what I hope for everyone.
I know that some who survive never tell anyone. They are not interested in hearing about others' experiences.
They find ways to forget.
I believe that he regretted doing the minimum when he was given McQueary's report.
~ ~ ~ ~ ~
ALL persons in Rhode Island are required by law (RIGL 40-11-3) to report known or suspected cases of child abuse and/or neglect to the Department of Children, Youth, and Families within 24 hours of becoming aware of such abuse/neglect.
Call the Hotline at 1-800-RI-CHILD (1-800-742-4453) to report child abuse and/or neglect!
The bold italicized text above is copied from the DCYF site.
Monday, January 23, 2012
the "Happy face"
This is the first Face, in a series of four, offered by my neighbor in a patient response to my request.
He is very close to 18 months old and has no lack of expressions.
Friday, August 26, 2011
Thursday, February 3, 2011
Please Call the White House...
Today has been designated as a Day to Call to Support Bradley Manning
I just did and spoke to someone who had clearly heard the message from others, although she said they are not allowed to say if they are getting lots of calls.
The wait to speak to a person was refreshingly brief and hurray: no muzak or canned message while on hold !
How many volunteer message takers are there, I wonder...
I just did and spoke to someone who had clearly heard the message from others, although she said they are not allowed to say if they are getting lots of calls.
White House switchboard: 202-456-1414
(or White House comments: 202-456-1111)
The wait to speak to a person was refreshingly brief and hurray: no muzak or canned message while on hold !
How many volunteer message takers are there, I wonder...
Tuesday, September 30, 2008
ACLU Takes Case Of Immigrant Who Died In Custody
The RI affiliate of the American Civil Liberties Union is providing legal representation to the family of Hui Liu Ng, the 34-year-old Chinese detainee who died last month at Donald W. Wyatt detention facility while in the custody of immigration authorities. Ng died of complications from cancer and a fractured spine, according to his NY attorneys.
read more | digg story
read more | digg story
Thursday, August 7, 2008
Support Alex Svoboda, Jason Friedmutter and Local Wobblies (IWW's)
I was horrified to see in today's Providence Journal that a "Special Prosecutor" has been selected to prosecute Alex...
Here's a link not to that article, but to a blog devoted to Alex...
http://supportalexsvoboda.blogspot.com/
Apologies, I didn't sleep well last night and am especially foggy technically...
Here's a link not to that article, but to a blog devoted to Alex...
http://supportalexsvoboda.blogspot.com/
Apologies, I didn't sleep well last night and am especially foggy technically...
Thursday, February 14, 2008
Mother Teresa & the Janitors of Providence College
" Spread love everywhere you go: first of all in your own house. Give love to your children, to your wife or husband, to a next door neighbor...Let no one come to you without leaving better or happier. Be the living expression of God's kindness; kindness in your face, kindness in your eyes, kindness in your smile; kindness in your warm greeting. "
~~Mother Teresa of Calcutta, 1910--1997
quote found on www.inspirationpeak.com
The one morning I spent picketing with the janitors left me feeling better than when I arrived. Sure my fingers were cold and my nose running, but I felt the connection with these people, the union staff, the Providence College security folks and also the Providence Police. I cannot express it without sentimentality, but it gave me a greater understanding of the Providence College students and faculty as well.
I believe a contract has been ratified, but I do not know the specifics
~~Mother Teresa of Calcutta, 1910--1997
quote found on www.inspirationpeak.com
The one morning I spent picketing with the janitors left me feeling better than when I arrived. Sure my fingers were cold and my nose running, but I felt the connection with these people, the union staff, the Providence College security folks and also the Providence Police. I cannot express it without sentimentality, but it gave me a greater understanding of the Providence College students and faculty as well.
I believe a contract has been ratified, but I do not know the specifics
Tuesday, February 12, 2008
Happy Birthday, NAACP !
This photo is from the New York World-Telegram & Sun, by Al Ravenna, 1956,From left: Henry L. Moon, Roy Wilkins, Herbert Hill and Thurgood Marshall.
http://www.naacp.org/home/index.htm
Friday, February 1, 2008
Darren Mann was my neighbor.
It's been a little over three weeks since Darren was killed on I-95 as he tried to cross the highway on foot.
I had only met him formally on one or two occasions, but I saw him several times a week in his car. My son or I (or both of us) would wave at him; Darren always waved back. He was a friendly spirit-- I know I could have turned to him if I had a flat tire or was locked out of my house. I have many neighbors whose name I forget, but whose countenances are deeply familiar and comforting.
The Providence Journal and at least one tv station made a point publicly speculating on Darren's motivation for walking across a highway. I understand that that the police, and the drivers of the cars, have every reason to analyze what happened. It is not, however, a matter that is useful journalistically. When the man is not alive, and we have no real way of knowing what was in his mind, then restating what the police "believe" serves no public interest.
Darren Mann and his family deserve the same compassion that is proffered a well-known philanthropist who also died on the road or the wife of a governor who was injured once upon a time.
Darren Mann was young and his death was tragic. I will miss his warmth.
I had only met him formally on one or two occasions, but I saw him several times a week in his car. My son or I (or both of us) would wave at him; Darren always waved back. He was a friendly spirit-- I know I could have turned to him if I had a flat tire or was locked out of my house. I have many neighbors whose name I forget, but whose countenances are deeply familiar and comforting.
The Providence Journal and at least one tv station made a point publicly speculating on Darren's motivation for walking across a highway. I understand that that the police, and the drivers of the cars, have every reason to analyze what happened. It is not, however, a matter that is useful journalistically. When the man is not alive, and we have no real way of knowing what was in his mind, then restating what the police "believe" serves no public interest.
Darren Mann and his family deserve the same compassion that is proffered a well-known philanthropist who also died on the road or the wife of a governor who was injured once upon a time.
Darren Mann was young and his death was tragic. I will miss his warmth.
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